NOTE: This post has nothing to do with politically-motivated terrorism.
That’s another subject altogether.
(Originally published 2015)
I went to school at a different time, the late 1950’s and 1960’s. It was a rural area, and most people had guns.
I was also a nerd before there was such a thing as a nerd.
If I was in school today, I would be labeled ADD or some other vague acronym, and drugged into complacency.
I was a target for several school bullies from grades 1-10. Some of this started when I was 13 and publicly supported a Black friend (of my Mother) by attending a 1960 sit-in at the Woolworth’s lunch counter.
The sit-in ended up being much ado over very little, at least in Martinsville. My rather eclectic collection of acquaintances from the local ‘elite’ to a rag-tag mixture of rebels artists and misfits, however, bothered some of the school’s tough guys.
I dreaded every school day morning like a death-row prisoner must look at their last day on Earth, except I knew I’d have to repeat it tomorrow. Like many other kids in my school, I had easy access to guns.
If any kid ever had a motive, means and opportunity to blow away a teacher or classmate, I did.
I eventually (10th. Grade) self-mediated the bullying situation by the forcible application of a large rock to the side of an aforementioned bully’s head.
One teacher’s reaction to that event …?
“I wondered how long you were going to keep taking that crap.”
And that was the end of it. No one was suspended, no one was punished and no one was seriously injured anywhere other than in their pride. As a bonus, I found a sense of self-confidence, the bullys learned that everyone has their limits, and all was well without adult, government or legal intervention. IOW: There MAY be some merit to the old “we’ll settle this behind the gym” methods.
We were taught to at least try to solve our own peer problems before bringing them to an adult. The LAST THING I or any of my classmates would have dreamed of, however, would have been to shoot or seriously injure someone. Like everyone else I watched Elmer Fudd point a shotgun at Buggs Bunny’s face and pull the trigger. All that happened to Buggs was a soot-covered face. We knew, however, that you don’t point a real shotgun at a person.
Back then, We Knew the Difference Between Fantasy and Reality
Killing a human being just wasn’t a concept in my mind, or in the minds of my fellow students. A respect for life was something we knew instinctively in our souls.
We Knew that Killing People was Very Very Serious and Very Very Wrong!
Most of the boys (and a few of the girls) in my neighborhood, had guns.
At age 14 we could buy WWII surplus German Mausers at the local K Mart™ for $12.00. (They were in 55 Gallon drums.)
I spent a few weekends with sandpaper, steel wool, gun oil, polishing compound and shellac and the result was a good-looking, tight, powerful and very accurate long-range rifle.
Anyone could buy a box of surplus NATO ammunition at Robbie’s surplus, or even Fieldale Hardware Store for Two Dollars, with no I.D. and no questions. In hunting season, even some local gas stations sold ammunition.
On Saturdays, Alfred Stegall, the town police “chief” would occasionally stop by the local trash dump when Jimmy Curry, Neil Stultz, Terrell O’Dell, and a few others were shooting at Rats, old refrigerators and pretend Nazis. He never came by to scold us or interfere in any way, he merely wanted to see that we weren’t being careless. He always said, “You boys have a good day now, and try not to shoot each other.” before he left.
On other days we played war games, Cowboys and Indians and Cops and Robbers. For these, of course, we’d leave the ‘Real’ guns at home. We knew they weren’t toys.
In Addition …
- We built pipe bombs filled with our own home-made black powder.
- We made bazookas (potato guns) that would shoot a dirt clod a quarter of a mile using hair spray as a propellant.
- We mixed Water, Aluminum foil and Lye in pop bottles to generate Hydrogen and used it to float surplus weather balloons (ordered from the back of the Sgt. York comics) high in the sky. Then shoot them with flare guns and watch them burn. This was especially impressive at night.
- We knew that White Phosphorus (Willie Pete) could burn a hole in an engine block because we did it.
- We made rockets from steel broom handles filled with homemade solid rocket fuel (powdered Sulfur, Sugar and Magnesium) and used them to launch our homemade fireworks.
- Our toys had sharp edges, things that would burn you, shock you, crush your fingers and get lodged in your throat.
- We had easy access to knives, hatchets, axes and other potentially harmful tools.
- A classmate built a crossbow in shop class out of a leaf spring from a car. He could shoot a hardened steel rod through cinder block at 25 yards. He didn’t get suspended, he got an “A” on his project.
- We lived next to woods and forests filled with poison ivy, bears, poisonous spiders, and snakes.
- We played in and around rivers with undertow, abandoned Iron mines and all manner of other deadly places and things.
- We had fishhooks, bows and arrows, poisons and other potentially fatal objects all around us.
- We rode our bicycles without knee pads or helmets.
- We enjoyed fun time riding in the back of pickup trucks, racing tractors and other activities that today might scream negligent parenting but to us meant ‘quality time.’
- We grew up with the horror of the Viet Nam war on television, and for many of us, in reality.
- We were forced to kill, and some to die.
- We grew up living under the threat of nuclear annihilation.
- We practiced regular ‘duck and cover’ drills. [As if a school desktop would save us should the Russians attack.]
- We did not have any ‘grief counselors’ other than our family, friends, and neighbors.
Based on the above, our last reunion should have been attended by psychotic veterans, emotional cripples, parolees, grieving parents, and widows.
SURPRISE — other than the heroes who gave their lives in the service of their country, we were pretty much alive and well.
Of course, times were different in our childhood. WWII vets and those on active duty in Korea saw atrocities and had traumatic experiences. They went away as young men and returned as trained killers and PTSD was yet to be recognized as anything more than “Shell Shock.”
My parent’s generation lived through severe economic depression and prohibition. They lived through a war so all-encompassing that it truly was a “World War.” Other Men and Women of the time worked in offices, foundries, and factories in support of their nation, families, and way of life. These were our parents.
The difference between then and now….?
Adults, however misguided they may seem in hindsight, who not only deeply cared for the welfare of their children, but were at the same time, firmly grounded in reality.
My parents had their problems, and they both passed while I was in my early teens. Apparently, my parents had many disagreements, but never in front of me. We were not wealthy, and my father was working much of the time. (Or being shiftless, depending upon which relative is describing him.)
Mom taught me to cook, can, sew and other ‘non-traditional’ skills at an early age because someday, “she wouldn’t be there.”
Dad often took me with him to his workshop (he was a millwright and carpenter) and exposed me to really dangerous power tools. (After serious safety lectures) He took me hunting when I was 8 years old, but only after I knew how to safely handle the .22 bolt-action single shot. My first kill was a rabbit.
When I picked up the dead rabbit, something in my life changed.
The lovable furry little Cotton-tailed flop-eared critter that I should have petted and cuddled was limp, wet, bloody and dead.
Nothing teaches a child more respect for life than holding death in his hands. From that day forward I had deeper respect not only for life but for what a person with a gun could do to that life in an instant.
That respect for life is with me today. (BTW, we still ate the Rabbit, after mama showed me how to gut and clean it.) Mama’s Rule No. 28: “You clean what you shoot.”
Our parents didn’t need to child-proof the guns, they chose to gun-proof the children.
Gun-proofing your children is as important as drown-proofing them, i.e., teaching them to swim. We shouldn’t teach children to be afraid of the Water, we should teach them respect for it and how to swim in it.
Are parents doing their children any favors by saying things like, “Don’t go near the water, you’ll get sucked in!,” or, “I never want my child to ever even see a real gun.”
You know the lure the forbidden presents to children. Do we really want to foster this curiosity, or should we teach our children a healthy respect for the things that can hurt them, or others, such as guns tools, cars, and swimming pools?
Are we doing children a favor, insulating them from anything that could cut, bruise crush or burn? Could today’s sterile, insulated, all winners, no losers, no reality “Childhood Umbrella” have some bearing on how unprepared many people are for life in the real world when reality finally smacks them in the face?
The non-sterile, often dangerous, occasionally frightening and hostile circumstances of our childhood gave us respect for our lives and the lives of others. Could this possibly have some bearing on the fact that none of my classmates turned into serial killers?
It couldn’t have been the guns, because we all had them. On the first day of Deer season it wasn’t unusual to see a rifle or shotgun in somebody’s locker when they came in at 2:00, just in time for the last class. What we have to ask ourselves is not only why times were different then, but how.
Guns haven’t changed.
Guns are pretty much the same as they were in the early 1900s. They were easier to get then, but the mechanics are much the same.
Children haven’t changed.
Children are still being born without avarice, hatred, intolerance, and bigotry.
Could it be parents who have changed?
- Is this the same set of “generation ME” parents who use television, video games and the Internet as “free babysitters from Heaven?”
- Are these the same parents who attempt to demand respect from their children while they show no respect for one another?
- Are these the same parents who are appalled at the ‘stage’ violence on television, but engage in real violence in front of their children?
- Are these the parents who are terrified that their impressionable young child might be exposed to God, or G** forbid, sex, but happily let them blow one another away in a First Person Shooter Video Game?
- Are these the parents who settle political, traffic and workplace disagreements with rage and violence?
- And does anyone care that over 95% of mass killers are from Fatherless homes?
And another disturbing thing — many of this generation’s parent’s are my generation’s children.
No wonder the kids are screwed up!
But that’s another rant!